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About me
I’m a healthy, youthful, happy, and loving guy, who could be the dream partner in a dream life for the right woman. I’m not looking for a date — I’m looking for a new life partner to share my exciting and joyful days with. That said, I and my lifestyle would not be a perfect match for everyone, and since I’m not in any way trying to seduce anyone, please allow me to cut to the chase.
First things — things that might put some off (to save you time):
- I’m a honey bee researcher (writer and international invited speaker). If you’ve got an issue with honey bees, read no more.
- If you’re looking for a quiet life in front of the TV, read no more. I’m a high-energy, high IQ, vibrant, scientifically-minded guy, biologically about 10 years younger than my chronological age, lean and very active, and I work nonstop — so am not the right partner for a low self-esteem or low-energy lady (although I’m an intense and focused hard worker, I’m also very happy and humorous, always smiling, laughing, and joking).
- I’ve got many skills. And just like the cobbler who can’t find time to shoe his children, my houses are in various stages of remodeling and disarray.
- Although I’m financially set up, I live a simple, rustic, eco-friendly lifestyle, and wear my jeans for more than one day at a time.
- I am looking for someone who wants to move to my place. I’ve got a rural property in the California foothills (Grass Valley), where we get a bit of snow in the winter. I grow a large garden and orchard, and am looking for a partner who would enjoy being involved and engaged in the garden and the property (woodsy with a lovely view).
- I’m more of a cat person than a dog person.
If you’re still reading, allow me to present:
The positives
My previous relationships have been based upon love, attractiveness, and intimacy, but after signing up for eharmony as an experiment, I realize that I’d be wise to find someone whose energy and personality traits match mine. I’m a likeable guy, so I’m not desperate or trying to sell myself, seduce or mislead you, so I will be honest and straightforward. I do not want to waste your time or mine.
My friends would describe me as the busiest guy they know, and the guy who gets things done. The answer man to any question. Helpful, loving, sharing. Widely loved by many. I have amicable relationships with those with whom I’ve been in previous relationships. They, and the women that I work with, will all vouch for my loving good nature and trustworthiness.
My joy is sharing with others – I’ve always been a teacher and giver.
My recent past
I was a devoted and loving husband to my long-time ex-wife. She was younger than me, but aged more quickly, and as her energy wound down she became more and more withdrawn and introverted. Wanting a quieter and more isolated life, she decided that that she’d be happier following her mother’s footsteps, and live alone. So I helped her buy a house, and we separated last June, remaining close and amicable friends. I’m finally getting over my crying and heartbreak (since I was very much in love with her) and with her encouragement, am looking for a new partner and soul mate with whom to share a new life together.
Disclaimer: My eharmony photo is from 2018 (so I’ve now got a few more wrinkles), but it best captures my essence. Here are a few more (all but the first two are recent):
Who I am
I’m likeable, happy, and appreciated by others. I’ve got no issues or traumas, and am responsible and caring. I exemplify the Scout Laws (I’m the inverse of our ex-president). You will never hear an untruth cross my lips.
I’m an ex hippy child of the ’60s, now a responsible, environmental, fiscally-conservative, socially-liberal adult. I was raised to honor and respect women, and have no desire to dominate a relationship.
I’ve got many skills, and am highly competent, capable, and accomplished. I’m always happy, free of stress, loving, generous, and looking for a soul mate and partner to share the everyday joys of life with — like a new flower blooming, or the taste of the first fruits from my orchard, or a beautiful sunset.
I live on a dream property with garden, orchard, and a view, am in good health, and financially stable. I’ve handed my sons our beekeeping business, so am now free to follow my passion of performing honey bee research and providing scientific information to beekeepers worldwide (at ScientificBeekeeping.com). My sons run the business from my property (one lives next door), so we often have visitors and things going on at the property.
I lead a simple, frugal, rustic life – nothing fancy (other than traveling to speak). I’m early to bed, early to rise. In my office before sunrise, cranking data, writing, email correspondence, and reading scientific papers. After breakfast, in and out for the rest of the day. Other than the news, I watch very little TV. Back in for dinner, which I enjoy cooking. I love spending evenings watching a movie together with the one I love.
I’m home or nearby most days, and don’t go to town much, but do travel to speaking engagements, which I try to limit to no more than once a month.
I respect and honor women, and have worked with ladies most of my life. I’m well liked and loved – any of my ex’s or female coworkers will give me a thumbs up.
The partner I’m looking for
I’m not the right person for someone who is intimidated by intelligence, or put off by me being so engaged in my research, writing, shop work, and property maintenance. I can also be kinda messy, since I always have so many projects in the works.
As far as a partner, I’d prefer an energetic, physically active, preferably lean, and affectionate woman who enjoys a simple rustic, eco-friendly lifestyle. You’d need to be OK with being around honey bees. I follow the Golden Rule, but have no interest in organized religion.
As far as relationship, since I’m a brainy, strong guy, I want an equally strong, self-assured partner who can stand up for herself, and communicate and articulate her feelings and wants. I don’t argue or criticize, and have zero desire to dominate or always get my way.
Although I love doing things together, I need a partner who has her own interests and hobbies to happily entertain herself while I’m working on my own projects. I’m far more interested in an active tomboy “country girl” in dirty jeans than a beauty queen in high heels. I want a gal who doesn’t mind getting dirt on her hands, and will enjoy working in the garden and orchard with me.
I ain’t perfect, and don’t expect you to be either. I want my partner to accept me in full as I am, and I will do the same in return. I don’t want to merely love my partner, I want to be in love with her every moment of my life.